Are You Trying To Make Him Love You?

by Cherry Norris on March 25, 2015

Finally, you meet a man you really like!

Your first encounter was great.  You love everything about him.  You click really well.

Now, waiting for his call, you feel totally out of control!

It's exciting, yet scary.

It feels great, yet unnerving.

Does he feel the same way about you?

Or are you more interested than him?

Do you keep humming, "I'm gonna make you love me?"

Today's video, gives you a fun, fail-proof tip on what to do when you start feeling anxious around meeting a new man!

If you're working too hard to make him love you in fear he may not, tune in now to see how to manage your anxiety so you don't blow it!

(You'll also see my "bare ummmms … ;))

Enjoy and leave me a comment below on what you do to stay calm when your emotions run high after meeting a new man!


{ 15 comments… read them below or add one }

Joana May 1, 2015 at 9:00 pm

Hello Cherry! I have been away processing what R wrote to me about a month ago, and also doing some inner work about potential blocks I might have to love (which isn't nearly as fun as your work, but I was curious and only have a few more weeks to go). R did write back and said: "

(…) I wanted to say a few words about February. The time we spent together in London was special for me, especially the lovely day out we had on the Sunday. Feeling close to another person is a very precious experience and not one that I often feel. What passed between us subsequently was the result of mutual attraction and a healthy expression of what we were both feeling at the time. It should be a happy memory. It isn't something to regret or to feel either ashamed or guilty about. It is, however, something that is private and should have remained that way. I am disappointed that you felt the need to share it with someone else, even if you were in a very unhappy state of mind at the time.

Thirdly, it would be wrong to think that I rejected you. The reality of our situation is the same now as it was last year: we live in different cities and there is no prospect of a long-distance relationship. But that is not the same as rejection. I think there is every chance that we can be friends once you have got over you feelings of attachment. You just need to let me know if and when you are ready."

I am just processing, but know I need to get back into dating. I thought I'd keep you posted after our great consultation back in February.

Thank you again for your tips and positive energy 🙂


Cherry Norris May 6, 2015 at 6:01 pm

Thanks so much for your update, Joana.  

What a gift for you that R wrote back and let you know where he stands.  Keep owning yourself and the beautiful woman you are.  Another man will see your value so keep yourself out there dating others and feeling good!




Joana September 5, 2015 at 9:18 am

Thanks, Cherry. Only now, that I asked for his friendship on Facebook again, did I see that he has been dating someone else for months already. I feel terrible, even though I wasn't sure I wanted him when we were together. I feel the pain of not being the chosen one, perhaps even more than the pain of not having him (my father preferred my sister, so maybe that's why I am finding it so difficult).


Uschi March 27, 2015 at 4:05 pm

When you are 60 this is hard to do especially when they are not many good men around


Sunny June 29, 2013 at 7:04 am

You say in this video, sit back and answer his questions? does that mean dont ask any questions. and how do you get them past comparing you to every other woman they've dated and if you do or say one thing that reminds them of a past bad experience, your down for the count! Its stupid and unfair!


Selena June 29, 2013 at 12:15 am

I love your earrings in this clip, Cherry!


Cherry Norris June 29, 2013 at 1:41 am

Thank you, Selena 🙂


Janine June 28, 2013 at 10:08 pm

I have been around the block a few times.  Hoping a man will love you and get all caught up in trying to do more to show them you love them is like being a puppy dog anguishing for the attention.  Putting the focus on yourself is not as easy as it sounds at times, but when a man really does love you you will know it.  We should do more BEING and less DOING. 


Jennifer June 28, 2013 at 3:53 pm

Does he make me a priority? How do I feel when I'm with him? These are HUGE and I learned them from you, Cherry. Thank you!


Florence June 28, 2013 at 3:28 pm

Great one to address Cherry.  Such an aweful position to be in.  Thank you for your wise and wonderful support.  Many blessings to you.


Jasmin June 28, 2013 at 12:05 pm

Ohhh, I've been tormented by those feelings so many, many times. It was always me trying to make the men love me. But everything changed when I met and fell in love with my boyfriend. I didn't need to make him love me because he was the man to chase me from the start.But typically, when I had to calm myself before, I used to 'try' to keep myself busy. I hunted out a friend to chat or talk to me about anything other than that man. I read new books or watched videos on YouTube. In short, all I had to do was keep my mind off the tension I felt.


Susie Hardesty June 28, 2013 at 11:25 am

I love watching your focused tips!
i use them to be a better matchmaker.
This is a great one.  You can't be present with someone when you are in your head.


Christina December 23, 2011 at 6:26 pm

Simple, yet, great advice. Thanks Cherry!


Cristina September 1, 2011 at 7:51 pm

Great video, and the others too. I have practiced things you are sharing and the results are awesome, well I didn’t find the Man yet, but at least is easier to approach men and to have a clear view if it is worth going on with dating or not. I am more aware of myself and that feels good.


Cherry Norris September 1, 2011 at 10:47 pm

Wonderful, Cristina.

Thank you for your note and your comments! So happy you’re seeing results. Just keep doing what you’re doing … and practicing what you’re learning. You man will find you and you’ll be so prepared and aware of what’s happening as you get to know him.

Love, Cherry


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