“He’s so cute.”
“He’s so nice.”
“He’s so … Young!”
Oh my. What to do when you find yourself attractec to a younger man.
It’s so exciting and … kinda weird at the same time.
Can it work? Is it ridiculous? Is there hope?
Find out in today’s video!
If a younger man has your attention and you’re not sure if you should date him, you must see this video!
Let me know if it resonates by leaving your comment below.
Enjoy!
Love, Cherry
P.S. If you’re older than the man you find attractive and wonder if there’s hope, watch today’s video.
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i agree the sexual chemistry is awsome .He says doesnt want a partner .i think hes been heart but doesnt seem to stay away for long .I feel im in love with him he says him or the sex ! But i feel its him.
Knowing I want more commitment he trys to stay away but after a week contacts me and whoosh when we meet its electric
hes 48 im an active 60 can sexual chemistry turn to love ?
Thank you Cherry for the video tip. Yes, I recently knew a women who has merried a 22-year younger man for 10 years so far. The man is 36 and the woman is 58. It feels amazing. For me, it feels acceptable to merry someone who is 10-year younger but feels scared to merry one who is 20 years younger than me. It seems more older men answer my profile than younger ones though.
Glad to hear you say that, since I’m attracted to men a good deal younger than I am.
I wish it were so simple. What about the silly grown children who have a problem with their Mom dating younger men. I am not rich, so it can’t be for my money!!! What can I do? I deserve to date whomever I please, and not be made to feel as if I am committing a crime. Help!
That is why I don’t even comment on my chhildrens’ parters’ ages, and they know that I have dated men younger than me and they tend to get along with them better than the older men I have dated. In fact when I was 46 and had a 28 yr old BF they could not have loved him more, because he was “cool” and loved them too.
Cherry, Love your videos and all your great advice. This one in particular is timely because I’m a very attractive, outgoing and energetic 58 year old woman whom many think I’m around 48. I’m on a dating site and have my age listed as 48, but when I meet a man and I feel it’s going somewhere I will tell him my real age. Most men don’t really care! It’s me as the person they’re attracted to, not the age. Besides, men around my age and older are starting to experience problems (wink wink) and I find younger men don’t have that. Keep the great advice coming!
Cathy
I respect women that decide to date younger men but for me I rather date closer to my age. It’s all about life goals, just the same way I had different goals when I was 20 same with everybody else. What if that guy wants children and you physically can’t? or, yours are grown and you don’t want to go through that again?
I’m curious about this also…I am approached by a lot more younger men than I am men my age or even older men. I can’t have children anymore and that’s what leads to my guilt. I have WAY TOO MUCH energy for the older men that come into my life, but I can’t have children with the younger ones. What do I do?
Thank you, that was very encouraging. So few eligible men in the right age group. Most of the men I meet and who like me are younger, and the age question is always on my mind. I’m sure I’m always discouraging people before I even get to know them by my own negatitivity around any age difference. I’ll try not to think about it! The only thing though Cherry is about having children. I obsess about it that a younger man might want his own children and if that might not be possible that may discourage them from wanting to continue a friendship, so while i’m always meeting younger men, I’m kind of mentally avoiding them because I don’t want to have that discussion and be rejected on that account.
I am an active retired woman of 72 years and I joined Senior People Meet 4 months ago and it has been discouraging. I took time to write an interesting profile and I do get positive comments from men of all ages; however I find that most of the men that interest me in their 60′s and 70′s will not respond to women over 70. I am wondering if Match.com might be better. I live in Santa Fe, NM and the men in Albuquerque an hour away do not want to travel the 55 miles and I understand. I am also finding that many men are not really ready for a relationship and i am able to spot men who are needy and coming to the site half full. Any suggestions?
Hi Cherry,
I was happy to see your video this morning. I have always looked much younger than my current age, so most men guys that approach me are in their 30′s (I am 43). Once they find out how old I really am, they are no longer interested it seems. They like talking to me, and they say that I am very pretty and they want to hang out (FWB), but they do not want to date or have any type of exclusive relationship. My friends are constantly telling me I need someone older, but I don’t feel comfortable dating someone older than me. Or at least I have not met anyone that I feel comfortable with. Thank you for your video and choosing to tackle this subject.
Dear Cherry:
Please speak about this topic a LOT more.
Many of us are in this situation, -the energy is one issue, (not totally equal, and- the body issues are another. ) Not twenty or even 40, anymore. Love to hear more from you on these concerns, from a woman’s standpoint.
Thanks So much.
S.
Cherry,
I’m in my mid 50′s and have been wowed by two much younger men in the past couple years. I would think, this is only short term, gotta keep looking, but I sure haven’t seen anyone my age that is working out. It’s heartening to hear that this is not just a new way for my heart to be insane!
Here’s a big thank you hug from
Lorene
I’m 61 yrs old, on a few date sites, and told by most ppl on & off line I look like I’m in my late 40′s. I’m approached mainly by guys in their 30′s & 40′s, but since I have a 35 yr old son, dating guys in their 30;s doesn’t appeal to me. I had an 8 yr relationship with someone who is 10 yrs younger & it was great; we broke up for reasons other than age. Recently, I dated a couple of guys in their mid to late 40′s , but the only problem for me was being shuffled around their weekend commitments with their very young children. I understand a guy has got to be a Dad too, but I’m at a different stage of life, my grandsons are the same age, so I’ve been there, done that. That was a problem for me, so now when I meet a guy & he has very young children, it’s a deal breaker, and if he tells me he doesn’t spend alot of time with the child, that’s a deal breaker too….
Thank you Cherry, for your inspiring view on older women dating younger men.
My man is only 3 years younger than me, but he says I make him feel so young because he thinks I am youthful too. He is very romantic and gorgeous, but as you say age has no bearing on a person’s outlook. Keep up your good work and many thanks!
Sandy
I am 56 and am entering into a relationship with a 32 year old man. Thank you for you support as it is an ongoing issue that we just don’t address very often and I think that is the way it is going to work. Afterall in the next life there will be no age and we will all be in our new bodies C?
I’ve always been with men who were older than me. Maybe it’s time to expand my horizons. Thank you, Cherry!
I usually always date younger mature men. I am very outgoing with a lot energy. A man my age which is 50 usually does not work. To set in their ways and not very active. I like to workout regular. They have to be mature and pursuing their goals.
Thank you Cherry. I agree with you and it helps so much to hear it from you and a lot of others from the comments. I’m not the only one! Be with what is and don’t fight it. Whatever works! Anthia
I NEVER date men my age (45) or older; I’m petite and in great shape and have LOTS of energy, and most men my age are boring, overstuffed sofas, who I have NOTHING in common with – and the younger guys for me are NEVER afraid to approach me! THANK YOU for this post – it gives me HOPE! My mom was 6 years younger than my dad; he was 26 when they married, she was 34; they were married for 56 years, so it CAN work!
Cherry,
Great video, thanks. And very apropos for me (51) as a younger (34) man is asking me out right now on a dating site. Here’s the thing, though. He wants children and I’m done with raising kids. He has said he wants to be open to meeting as he searches for “the one.” I am intrigued and would like to meet him, but I, of course, want to meet “the one” as well. Is it foolish to see someone who doesn’t long-term potential as a life partner? In other words, am I sending the universe mixed messages? The truth is that I believe I am, but I want to have fun right now as well. (Smile). I’d love to hear your input on this.
Thanks,
Betsy
Hi Cherry,
Enjoy your videos!!! I am dating a man who is 8 years younger (he is 43; I am 51). He thinks I am 40! HaHaHa… We live in different states.
We have had 3 dinner dates. I will be seeing him again in November.
When should I tell him my age. We are still in the dating, getting to know each other stage…..I am new to the dating scene.
Thank you for your advise!
Carmen
I agree with Cherry whole-heartedly, however, I do think the age of the people can influence the relationship and whether it is long-term or not. For example, 42 and 29 may not be as ideal as 60 and 47 (where both people have had ample opportunity to experience life and romantic partnerships). That being said, I always date younger. I love younger men and my current beau (for a year and half now) is 13 years younger. I have a HUGE smile on my face most days!
I am starting to be attracted to a man 20 years younger. It is mutual. He is already in a committed relationship with a woman same age as me…loves her. The nice thing about this is that is reminds me that I am or could be still attractive to men. Am I crazy? I have been out of circulation for over a decade due to a bad breakup with a married man (same age as me). At first I thought he was putting me on…but its been a couple years now…of respectfully chatting on IM. He still seems to well….like me. I am beginning to feel like a kid again
kat,
Please don’t do that! the young man has another woman he loves, at the same time he likes you too, this is the alert to me, he would not commit to you ONLY for long even if he breaks up with his current woman who is his age. I;ve done that, so I believe not every man’s the same, but this one definitely is a red alert to you, that you should protect yourself by not being too close to him or trust him too much. I am not letting you down, but this one is dangerous to me. Take care!—Chai
The question is why are you considering dating someone who is not available? And, why would you want to be part of something that is cheating on another? It sounds like deeper self-esteem issues. You are worth more then this…once you realize this you would not entertain such a “relationship.” Best to you.