Attracted To A Younger Man …

by Cherry Norris on October 13, 2011

He's cute and nice and oh so … Young!

Although it's exciting and you feel great when you're with him, you may be asking, "Can this work?  Is it ridiculous?  Is there hope?"

I hear you, sista!  I went through the same thing before marrying my younger man!  (In fact, I'm writing a screenplay on this very subject!)

So for all you hot "older" women …

Today's video gives you a fun, fail-proof tip on what to do if a younter man has your attention!

When you meet a younger man who you really like, often your age gap can feel kinda weird.  Like it's taboo.  Or you're doing something wrong.

Watch this if you have ANY doubts about dating a younger man!

Enjoy and leave me your thoughts below in the comment section!

Love,

Cherry

 

{ 53 comments… read them below or add one }

anne edwards October 14, 2011 at 11:33 am

i agree the sexual chemistry is awsome .He says doesnt want a partner .i think hes been heart but doesnt seem to stay away for long .I feel im in love with him he says him or the sex ! But i feel its him.
Knowing I want more commitment he trys to stay away but after a week contacts me and whoosh when we meet its electric
hes 48 im an active 60 can sexual chemistry turn to love ?

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Angela October 14, 2011 at 11:48 am

Thank you Cherry for the video tip. Yes, I recently knew a women who has merried a 22-year younger man for 10 years so far. The man is 36 and the woman is 58. It feels amazing. For me, it feels acceptable to merry someone who is 10-year younger but feels scared to merry one who is 20 years younger than me. It seems more older men answer my profile than younger ones though. :-)

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Mia October 14, 2011 at 12:23 pm

Glad to hear you say that, since I’m attracted to men a good deal younger than I am.

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Dessie October 14, 2011 at 1:28 pm

I wish it were so simple. What about the silly grown children who have a problem with their Mom dating younger men. I am not rich, so it can’t be for my money!!! What can I do? I deserve to date whomever I please, and not be made to feel as if I am committing a crime. Help!

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sandi October 14, 2011 at 7:43 pm

That is why I don’t even comment on my chhildrens’ parters’ ages, and they know that I have dated men younger than me and they tend to get along with them better than the older men I have dated. In fact when I was 46 and had a 28 yr old BF they could not have loved him more, because he was “cool” and loved them too.

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Cathy October 14, 2011 at 1:34 pm

Cherry, Love your videos and all your great advice. This one in particular is timely because I’m a very attractive, outgoing and energetic 58 year old woman whom many think I’m around 48. I’m on a dating site and have my age listed as 48, but when I meet a man and I feel it’s going somewhere I will tell him my real age. Most men don’t really care! It’s me as the person they’re attracted to, not the age. Besides, men around my age and older are starting to experience problems (wink wink) and I find younger men don’t have that. Keep the great advice coming!
Cathy

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Ginell October 14, 2011 at 1:58 pm

I respect women that decide to date younger men but for me I rather date closer to my age. It’s all about life goals, just the same way I had different goals when I was 20 same with everybody else. What if that guy wants children and you physically can’t? or, yours are grown and you don’t want to go through that again?

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Sophia October 14, 2011 at 7:31 pm

I’m curious about this also…I am approached by a lot more younger men than I am men my age or even older men. I can’t have children anymore and that’s what leads to my guilt. I have WAY TOO MUCH energy for the older men that come into my life, but I can’t have children with the younger ones. What do I do?

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nally October 14, 2011 at 2:14 pm

Thank you, that was very encouraging. So few eligible men in the right age group. Most of the men I meet and who like me are younger, and the age question is always on my mind. I’m sure I’m always discouraging people before I even get to know them by my own negatitivity around any age difference. I’ll try not to think about it! The only thing though Cherry is about having children. I obsess about it that a younger man might want his own children and if that might not be possible that may discourage them from wanting to continue a friendship, so while i’m always meeting younger men, I’m kind of mentally avoiding them because I don’t want to have that discussion and be rejected on that account.

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Mary October 14, 2011 at 2:51 pm

I am an active retired woman of 72 years and I joined Senior People Meet 4 months ago and it has been discouraging. I took time to write an interesting profile and I do get positive comments from men of all ages; however I find that most of the men that interest me in their 60′s and 70′s will not respond to women over 70. I am wondering if Match.com might be better. I live in Santa Fe, NM and the men in Albuquerque an hour away do not want to travel the 55 miles and I understand. I am also finding that many men are not really ready for a relationship and i am able to spot men who are needy and coming to the site half full. Any suggestions?

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Sara November 2, 2012 at 4:57 am

Hi, Mary, I used to live there (and my parents – who followed me there – still do). I know exactly what you're talking about !  For you, you only need one, right ?! – So that's your goal.  Give yourself every chance !  Like Cherry points out, it's the ENERGY between the people.  People there are SO open.  And varied.  Spacious consciousness.  Especially if you're open to different cultures/ancestry.  Someone is looking for exactly YOU !By using only the Seniors site, your search parameters are inaccurate for your purpose.          More extreme opinion: always I've felt, since childhood, it's noone's business your age anyway, YOUR choice individually what to reveal, about ANYTHING !  Give yourself what you really desire, or at least die trying ! – It's probably about time….Best wishes for love.   "Sara"
 

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Ardith March 20, 2014 at 8:33 am

Wow- just read your post- and I have had this problem since Valentine's Day a month ago when I ran into a man twenty years my junior that I knew off  and on but not well.  Something hit me like lightning and I fell crazy in love in the last 30 days and have done everything I could to shoot down this romance.  We had a few drinks at the local pub and about burned down the room with the chemistry.  I can't believe this since I have not had a date (or interest in any man) for the last 24 years.  I thought I was all done with that and have been married once and then divorced with a few bums I dated then I just quit in disgust.  I thought I was happy enough and content to be with my six cats for the rest of my life.  But after "Doogie Howser" left the pub the other night, I had guys propositioning me and throwing money on my table to buy me a beer!  (No interest).  He still has me hot as heck but we didn't sleep together and I said no to the one time he asked me out on a Friday night.  (Why!)  I cry sometimes because I miss him.  Bottom line:  I am intimidated because I am (an athletic and young looking 72 and he is 53.  This has scared me away.  You are not supposed to feel this way at my age!

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Kelly G October 14, 2011 at 3:06 pm

Hi Cherry,

I was happy to see your video this morning. I have always looked much younger than my current age, so most men guys that approach me are in their 30′s (I am 43). Once they find out how old I really am, they are no longer interested it seems. They like talking to me, and they say that I am very pretty and they want to hang out (FWB), but they do not want to date or have any type of exclusive relationship. My friends are constantly telling me I need someone older, but I don’t feel comfortable dating someone older than me. Or at least I have not met anyone that I feel comfortable with. Thank you for your video and choosing to tackle this subject.

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Wanda December 21, 2012 at 11:40 pm

Please do not settle or deny yourself of a happy relationship.  I am 51 years young and I am dating a very mature 26 years young man.  I waited an our relationship is fabulous.  Please wait for the right one for you.  Date and do not get serious until the right comes and it amaze you.  I am still in schock that is so real.  We do most things together he cooks and just help with everything.  Everything is just in sync. Even when we cuddle is just as if his body just fits into mine like a puzzle.  So wait for that one.  It will be well worth.  I wish someone had made it really plain and clear to me.  To just date and wait for mr. right.  Keep in touch with cherry she is so wonderful and just love her little blogs and bubbly mannerism. 
Take care Wanda
 

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ANNE September 18, 2013 at 5:40 pm

would love to talk to you I am in this exact same position. You are the same age as me the the man I care about is your boyfriends age. I am so scared and confused.

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Sue October 14, 2011 at 3:41 pm

Dear Cherry:
Please speak about this topic a LOT more.
Many of us are in this situation, -the energy is one issue, (not totally equal, and- the body issues are another. ) Not twenty or even 40, anymore. Love to hear more from you on these concerns, from a woman’s standpoint.
Thanks So much.
S.

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Lorene October 15, 2011 at 12:06 am

Cherry,
I’m in my mid 50′s and have been wowed by two much younger men in the past couple years. I would think, this is only short term, gotta keep looking, but I sure haven’t seen anyone my age that is working out. It’s heartening to hear that this is not just a new way for my heart to be insane!
Here’s a big thank you hug from
Lorene

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Lori October 14, 2011 at 4:48 pm

I’m 61 yrs old, on a few date sites, and told by most ppl on & off line I look like I’m in my late 40′s. I’m approached mainly by guys in their 30′s & 40′s, but since I have a 35 yr old son, dating guys in their 30;s doesn’t appeal to me. I had an 8 yr relationship with someone who is 10 yrs younger & it was great; we broke up for reasons other than age. Recently, I dated a couple of guys in their mid to late 40′s , but the only problem for me was being shuffled around their weekend commitments with their very young children. I understand a guy has got to be a Dad too, but I’m at a different stage of life, my grandsons are the same age, so I’ve been there, done that. That was a problem for me, so now when I meet a guy & he has very young children, it’s a deal breaker, and if he tells me he doesn’t spend alot of time with the child, that’s a deal breaker too….

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Sandy October 14, 2011 at 6:33 pm

Thank you Cherry, for your inspiring view on older women dating younger men.
My man is only 3 years younger than me, but he says I make him feel so young because he thinks I am youthful too. He is very romantic and gorgeous, but as you say age has no bearing on a person’s outlook. Keep up your good work and many thanks!
Sandy

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sandi October 14, 2011 at 7:31 pm

I am 56 and am entering into a relationship with a 32 year old man. Thank you for you support as it is an ongoing issue that we just don’t address very often and I think that is the way it is going to work. Afterall in the next life there will be no age and we will all be in our new bodies C?

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Moira October 14, 2011 at 8:05 pm

I’ve always been with men who were older than me. Maybe it’s time to expand my horizons. Thank you, Cherry!

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Wanda October 14, 2011 at 9:10 pm

I usually always date younger mature men. I am very outgoing with a lot energy. A man my age which is 50 usually does not work. To set in their ways and not very active. I like to workout regular. They have to be mature and pursuing their goals.

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Anthia Ashe October 17, 2011 at 8:05 am

Thank you Cherry. I agree with you and it helps so much to hear it from you and a lot of others from the comments. I’m not the only one! Be with what is and don’t fight it. Whatever works! Anthia

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MizDawn October 18, 2011 at 2:23 am

I NEVER date men my age (45) or older; I’m petite and in great shape and have LOTS of energy, and most men my age are boring, overstuffed sofas, who I have NOTHING in common with – and the younger guys for me are NEVER afraid to approach me! THANK YOU for this post – it gives me HOPE! My mom was 6 years younger than my dad; he was 26 when they married, she was 34; they were married for 56 years, so it CAN work!

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Betsy October 19, 2011 at 6:08 am

Cherry,
Great video, thanks. And very apropos for me (51) as a younger (34) man is asking me out right now on a dating site. Here’s the thing, though. He wants children and I’m done with raising kids. He has said he wants to be open to meeting as he searches for “the one.” I am intrigued and would like to meet him, but I, of course, want to meet “the one” as well. Is it foolish to see someone who doesn’t long-term potential as a life partner? In other words, am I sending the universe mixed messages? The truth is that I believe I am, but I want to have fun right now as well. (Smile). I’d love to hear your input on this.

Thanks,
Betsy

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carmen October 19, 2011 at 3:23 pm

Hi Cherry,
Enjoy your videos!!! I am dating a man who is 8 years younger (he is 43; I am 51). He thinks I am 40! HaHaHa… We live in different states.
We have had 3 dinner dates. I will be seeing him again in November.
When should I tell him my age. We are still in the dating, getting to know each other stage…..I am new to the dating scene.
Thank you for your advise!
Carmen

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Danielle October 19, 2011 at 8:12 pm

I agree with Cherry whole-heartedly, however, I do think the age of the people can influence the relationship and whether it is long-term or not. For example, 42 and 29 may not be as ideal as 60 and 47 (where both people have had ample opportunity to experience life and romantic partnerships). That being said, I always date younger. I love younger men and my current beau (for a year and half now) is 13 years younger. I have a HUGE smile on my face most days! :-)

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Kat October 20, 2011 at 5:06 am

I am starting to be attracted to a man 20 years younger. It is mutual. He is already in a committed relationship with a woman same age as me…loves her. The nice thing about this is that is reminds me that I am or could be still attractive to men. Am I crazy? I have been out of circulation for over a decade due to a bad breakup with a married man (same age as me). At first I thought he was putting me on…but its been a couple years now…of respectfully chatting on IM. He still seems to well….like me. I am beginning to feel like a kid again :-)

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chai October 25, 2011 at 12:34 am

kat,

Please don’t do that! the young man has another woman he loves, at the same time he likes you too, this is the alert to me, he would not commit to you ONLY for long even if he breaks up with his current woman who is his age. I;ve done that, so I believe not every man’s the same, but this one definitely is a red alert to you, that you should protect yourself by not being too close to him or trust him too much. I am not letting you down, but this one is dangerous to me. Take care!—Chai

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Dharma November 18, 2011 at 2:02 pm

The question is why are you considering dating someone who is not available? And, why would you want to be part of something that is cheating on another? It sounds like deeper self-esteem issues. You are worth more then this…once you realize this you would not entertain such a “relationship.” Best to you.

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jennifer May 25, 2012 at 8:07 pm

Younger older .. who’s too say? Im in this amazing energetic hot boyfriend, , wow 13 yrs younger then me, , yes I’ve been married, divorced two kids raising on my own and two buisnesses, ,, .. I feel its my time with this healthy alert, phsical man, , he’s. Like so difffrent then older men.

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Derrick May 29, 2012 at 7:13 pm

I have a question. I'm 24, and the woman who I'm in love with is 36. We've been talking and hanging out together for a few months now secretly. She told me how much she loves me and enjoy being with me, and how much I make her happy. But she's concerned on what her family might say if she was to date me. She says she wants to remain friends, but I could tell in her eyes she doesn't mean it. What should I do?

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Racquel June 1, 2012 at 5:45 pm

Hi Cherry- Just found ur video by googling "I'm dating a man 20 yrs younger than me" LOL… It's been a couple months and what started off as a electric lustful friendship has turned into something.. More.  I feel under scrutiny from everyone around me.  I'm 41, he's 22.  We've amazing chemistry- he's so affectionate and so sweet– and I long to 'take care of him' not in so much a motherly way, but in a way that I've experienced more life than he has… as of now.  The sex is OFF THE CHAIN… AMAZING… WHEW… and I don't know if this will last, but I'm just going to enjoy it while it's here.  I am worried about the 20 yr old women who sneak peeks at him… the young women whom he "should" be with, but he still chooses to be with me- and I think that is all that matters.  One time someone asked if I were his sister or something though… HA… that was uncomfortable. I don't think I look old enough to be his mother, although I do have a son that is only 2 yrs younger than him.  IT'S ALL VERY taboo it seems, but I am totally in love with ths young stud and I'm just going to enjoy it while I can.  Thank you for the APPROVAL..  as I said this seems to be a taboo…(yet perfectly fine for women to date men many many years their seniors…)  xoxo Thank u cherry!

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Joanie December 15, 2012 at 3:58 am

Hey Cherry,
Love your videos.  However, your advice on this subject runs counter to what many other dating "experts" say.  I'm 38 and attracted to men 32-38. Not a hugh difference in age and so far, it's been ok- have had a few serious relationship where marriage was on the offer.  However, I am still ridiculed by many who tell me I should be realistically looking at men in their mid to late 40's.  I would like to know how to handle the criticism as well.  The only people who support me are those who are also in relationships wtih younger men.  Otherwise I'm label narcissistic and deluded.

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lm December 21, 2012 at 7:56 pm

Joanie - 
I have to wonder what these "many" have invested in telling you what you should be doing with your own personal love life.  It's been my experience that these busybodies are miserable in their own personal lives; thats' the reason they're so eager to be up in everyone else's.
 
You do you.

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lm December 21, 2012 at 7:57 pm

"thats'"
 
"that's"
 
#corrections

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Christy Evans February 8, 2013 at 12:49 am

Wow. I have been dating a guy 32 years younger than me for about 2 years now …I met him when I was 57 and he was 25….he approached me on a dating website and we are so in love…I tried to fight these feelings at first…and one time I said you do know I will be 58 in a couple of months …to which he replied…I dont care if you are 108! He is a Special Ed teacher…so patient and loving and sweet and strong (former linebacker) …we have a chemistry and mental connection that I have never experienced before…I look 25 years younger than I am and feel like a teenager!!!….I would advise any woman not to hesitate because this window of opportunity is unlike anything I have ever experienced before…We have so much passion and I encourage all older woman to give the younger men a chance…you never know where you will find love!

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Aspen May 3, 2013 at 6:28 pm

I have just started seeing a man 18 years my junior. He said that age didn't matter to him and hoped it didn't to me! Went we met we were instantly attracted to each other! He prefers to be with an older woman as they don't have the baggage and no drama queen behavior as he has experienced with younger women. He is very caring/loving! We have lots of the same interests and enjoy each others company! In his profile he said he in't looking for a commitment and until we met, I wasn't either, but I certainly wouldn't mind having him in my life on a daily basis! My motto is: NEVER say NEVER! Right now I am just enjoying the times we can spend together, as he works nights and sometmes weekends, so our only time can be when he can get some free time off from work! But, he does keep in touch! He makes me feel young, which is a good thing! Aspen

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Connie May 30, 2013 at 10:01 pm

Hi, You made me feel soooo much better!! but it does feel really weird, like I am a petiphile or something although he is 45! I am 70 but of course don't look it. I am so scared that he is just experimenting so we have not made love….yet. but he wants to all the time. I have to admit that guys younger than him have been attracted to me! Not bragging…just scares me because I am attracted back! But your video made me feel so much better. Thank you!

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Denise June 7, 2013 at 10:02 pm

Love this encouragement to date younger men, Cherry! I am 50 and currently dating a man who is 42. My previous boyfriend was 14 years younger than me (we broke up for reasons other than age), and my late husband was 6 years younger than me. I am just not attracted to men my own age, and especially not to men older than me. For the most part, they don't have a youthful outlook on life, and they don't have anywhere near as much energy or sexual enthusiasm as me! There are a LOT of guys out there who are attracted to older women….you just have to be open to it.

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Karen June 8, 2013 at 4:07 am

Hi Cherry,
I turned 61 in January. I'm a very young 61, most people don't believe me when I tell them my age. I watched your videdo with interest because I've had men 15-20 years younger than me approach me. However, all I can think of is that when I'm 75, he'll be 55 or 60. I'll be an old lady and he'll still be relatively young.
Even though I've stayed active, I'm starting to have health issues related to getting older. I'm afraid to get involved with someone that much younger than me because I'm afraid he wouldn't want to deal with what comes with aging and he'd just take off. 
I couldn't bear to have that happen, so I just disregard it when younger men come on to me. 

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Sola June 9, 2013 at 2:18 am

Ok – so here's a bit of a twist.  I'm 60 and I really, really like someone who is 40.  He's very mature, different, humourous, and a whole bunch of other qualities I like.   Because we have a mutual sport we see each other about twice a week, and we talk.  I can't tell if he's interested or not; I'm pretty sure he knows I like him, but I'm wondering if I should actually say something. In wich case I dont know what to say.  Two things may happen; he'll either say not interested, which would be very embarrising and we still have to attend the same activity.  Of he'll acknowledge it and say something back that would make it easy to live with – rejection that is.  So why am I not choosing a 3rd option – that he will say the same thing back?  I think because I don't believe it's possible for someone 20 years younger to like someone that much older.  

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sarah June 9, 2013 at 4:05 pm

I don't think it is necessarily wise to date younger men if you are looking for a serious relationship leading to marriage.  I dated a man for two years who was only six years my junior and he broke up with me, at the age of 38, because he wanted a family in the future and was afraid that I wouldn't be fertile enough.  It devasted me and I haven't quite gotten over it yet.  Because I too want to be married someday, I am now only focusing on men my age or older.

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Loli June 15, 2013 at 3:55 am

Sarah, I'm 38 and have had guys my own age think I'm too old for them. I understand your pain. For some reason the 26 year old I'm dating is cool with our age gap and understands the need to marry soon. My cousin just gave birth at 45 by the way!

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Nicole June 15, 2013 at 5:37 pm

Hi, I am 38 but looking at least 10 years younger. I am fighting  with the thought of dating someone who is less than 33…Nevertheless, I do, and almost always feels strange. The guys that I am dating are not usually interested in settling. I want a family and kids. So,. gusually the younger guys make a move on me first…. We often break up because of age difference directly or indirectly.
Anyway, last nigth I met this guy who is probably  10 yrs younger me. I am so attracting to him. He is not a playboy and he just wants a girlfriend. He invited me out for dinner next week. I will go of course but I don't know whether I should tell him my real age. I really really like him and I don't want to loose him.
I am so puzzled. Please advise.
Nicole

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Nicole June 15, 2013 at 5:48 pm

Hi, I am 38 but looking at least 10 years younger. I am fighting with the thought of dating someone who is less than 33…Nevertheless, I do, and almost always feels strange. So, usually the younger guys make a move on me first…. The guys  that I am dating are not usually interested in settling, nor in a committed relationship and often believe that an older woman will teach smth new. I, on the other hand, want a family and kids. We often break up because of age difference directly or indirectly.
Anyway, last night I met this guy who is probably 10 yrs younger than me. I think I am totally in love with him. I am so attracted to him.  He is not a playboy and he just wants a girlfriend. He invited me out for dinner next week. I will go of course but I am terrified at the question of age. I don't know whether I should tell him my real age or not. I really really like him and I am terrified he will not be interested in me if he knows my real age.
I am so puzzled. Please advise.
Nicole

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marissa October 2, 2013 at 11:56 pm

I'm attracted to a guy who is 18 years younger than me.  I am 45 and he is 27.  He sold me my car and we were emailing yesterday and have a lot in common. He did say that he thinks i'm attractive and I gave him a subtle clue to ask me out but he didn't.  Should I ask him out. I can't tell for sure if he's interested or not.  I have never dated anyone younger than me and actually have hardly dated in the last 16 years since my divorce so I am so nervous. What should I do?  Should I ask him to the movies as friends?  Help please

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DianaBanana December 28, 2013 at 11:47 am

Marissa, Never be affraid to make a first move. Men, especially the younger guys, like the confidence of older women. Movies are bad first dates, since there is limits on conversation. I would just say somethig like "I am wantng to do something different. I hear ____ is going to be playing at _____. Would you like to go? Or the zoo, or anywhere that will offer talk time. And never, ever lie about your age. You can say you are in your thirties and be telling the truth.If he asks specifically, be honest. Hope this helps for the future. Good Luck!

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Eva December 12, 2013 at 7:24 am

Marrisa, don't do his job!  If he wanted ask you out he would. If he didn't he is not interested. Is many nice guys around and I am sure you will find the right one to be attreacted to him again. Just open yourself to this….

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DianaBanana December 28, 2013 at 11:33 am

Hi there! I am divorced and in my forties. My boyfriend is in his early twenties. We have been going strong for 2 years. You never know what the future holds, but you won't ever know unless you try and give it your best shot. Taking it slow and communication is the key. He is the best thing that has ever happened to me and I know he thinks the same of me. We both have good jobs and homes, he adores my children and we have just began the sexual part of our relationship. I am holding back on love, but if it goes a couple more years this way, I might just fall in love. That is if I have not already. :) Good luck ladies!

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Kim May 23, 2014 at 12:03 pm

Hi,
I've been dating a wonderful man for the past 2 years.  I was reluctant at first to date him when I discovered that we had a 14 year age difference.  I'm 51 and he is 38 we get along so well in every way!  I'm constantly amazed at how well we communicate, have many mutual interests, he  has a great sense of humor and more!  I'm so happy I opened my heart and soul to this man.  I've never had so much fun in a relationship before!!  He nicknames me his 'puzzle piece" because we love to cuddle and our bodies fit perfectly!!  I recommend giving the younger man a chance
 

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Jason May 27, 2014 at 9:33 pm

I can understand having confidence and selling yourself, but sheesh…. No women on here look their age, everyone is young and virile no matter their age, all these 'young studs' chasing after you…..and making it sound like all the men your age are all broken down junk heaps while you are all in pristine condition!! Lol!!l. It must be nice to be part of such an elite bunch….. And I'm 39 and I'm noticing this.

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Maggie May 31, 2014 at 7:01 pm

I am dating a man 18 yrs younger then me. I am 72-most people think I am 60.I don't think he knows my age and does not care. To him age is just a number-it does not matter. It is about the person you are. We have known each other at least 18 yrs and he was married  for 25 yrs. It ended 7 1/2 yrs ago. There was always an attraction that I felt and I now know he too knew-there was something. I can't explain it and we never acted upon it or discussed. Seven years on his own and divorced now. We would talk every once and a while and talk about getting together for dinner or something- but did not. Then literally two weeks ago we went out for dinner and it was great. After a number of dinners and lunches, it has all changed. I had the nervousness of the age thing and now I am over it. It is the respect of each other, the honesty we have, the communication, the knowing that I am secure in my life and he is too. We don't know whats ahead, but I do know that it is extremely important to him that I am ok. We promise each other that if it does not work, we will always be friends. We are in a small town where everybody knows us. We have discussed and I don't care and he does not either. We don't want to be a secret. We are slowly appearing together a little bit. I know that it is important to him that our friends don't judge this disrespectfully. We truly care about each other and love being together.His kids are out of the house and his daughter had just said to him "Dad you need to start dating". He took her at her word. I am really happy that he chose me and I know he is too. I have told my daughter and she is really happy for me. She really likes him and feels he is a  good guy.I, too, am happy I found your site. It helped a lot.

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