Does He Want You Forever … Or For A Brief Affair?

by Cherry Norris on May 5, 2016

You've met a new man. He's handsome, hot and everything you want.

Best of all … he's into you.

He's calling you up.

He's asking you out.

He's being soooo romantic.

In fact, everything he's doing suggests he wants a relationship.  Or does he?

How can you be sure if he's interested in a long-term romance? Or know if he's using you for a short-term fling?

In today's video, you'll learn how to know if a man is really interested in you for the long haul … or if he's serial dating and just having fun.

Oh, yeah … and there's a BIG RED FLAG to beware of too!

In the comments below, join the conversation. Tell me how you know if a guy's serious about you or not.

Thank you so much for tuning in!



{ 22 comments… read them below or add one }

Gina July 18, 2016 at 5:49 am

HELP! I was dating this guy and he was great. Opened doors for me, talked everyday, sent me morning texts, dinners, walks in the park. He never asked me for sex. I did. I knew I liked him and I wanted to be with him. I messed up. He disappeared, then reappeared 4  weeks later only texting midnight or later. I fear I gave the wrong impression and we never had the talk. How can I fix this? Or can I? 


Camille May 7, 2016 at 2:26 am

Hi Cherry,

In this segment you sound just like Steve Harvey. He said the same exact thing about finding out a man's intentions with you.


Bren May 6, 2016 at 3:20 pm



Erica May 6, 2016 at 2:48 pm

What does it mean when a guy wants to be in a exclusive casual relationship but wants to have sex? Isn't this the same as " friends with benefits?"



Mary October 20, 2014 at 5:22 pm

How soon into dating do we ask him his intentions? Thanks.


Ren May 31, 2016 at 5:53 am

Ask the man by the second date – latest third.  I asked friends for advice about asking a guy I had just started going out with about his intentions.  They said "no" you don't want to run him away.  I should have followed my first mind and asked him by the second date.  It would have saved me years of "going nowhere" dating with this guy.  I wouldn't say first because that's just a "nice to meet you" introductory "light talk" date.  If he asks you out again, that says he wants to know more about you; he's interested!  Ask by the second date !!


Bonnie Pickhardt October 18, 2014 at 1:01 am

Thanks Cherry, for your wise guidance. Women who are new to the dating scene need sound cautionary advice. Many say they are dropped if they are not ready for a ‘close encounter’ by the third date.
I enjoy your glamorous videos and amusing advice.


Joana October 17, 2014 at 9:22 pm

Hi Cherry,

Thank you again for your wise advice! I tend to get a few feminine men wanting to commit to me right away, only to leave me for another “mum” when I am feeling depleted! I read this in your eBook and recognized this pattern in my life, so I am trying to tap into my feminine so next time I attract a more masculine, giving and protecting man. The last man who showed interest in me has a super job and is very hardworking, but again he wanted me to do things like pick him up or carry things for him! I am so glad I purchased your program so I can say NO to these things – in fact men appreciate me more for it in the end! Thank you


Carol October 17, 2014 at 1:58 pm

The issue I seem to encounter over and over is that I can find men who are not players and are interested in a long term relationship, but that’s as far as they can go. They can’t make it to the next level and commit to a true partnership (and marriage). They are OK with serial dating – which is convenient for them. How can we weed these men out at the beginning, rather than a year or two into the relationship? There are some very nice men out there with lots of great qualities, except the ability to create a loving partnership.



Theresa October 17, 2014 at 4:43 pm

I truly believe that if you follow Cherry’s rules, the guys will be crazy about you and do all they can to have you in their lives. They guys I’ve dated since working with Cherry have commented on how stunned they are about how they feel about me. Follow the rules.


Sandy October 17, 2014 at 1:50 pm

“He’s handsome, hot and everything you want.”

That’s the comment I want to comment on. One of the things I have learned “out there” is that after going for the “hot, handsome” guy I was being way to surface myself. There are a lot of good guys out there that would love to be the man in our lives, but we get hung up on the “eye candy” that walks away when the next “hot gal” comes along. Why not stop the nonsense of looking for the “hot” guy and start being more selective about the character of a guy instead.
If a guy doesn’t want to meet your friends, family and doesn’t introduce you to his friends and family then no matter what HE SAYS, he is NOT in a committed relationship. If a guy isolates the two of you so you can have “quality time” together…THAT’S my red flag. If a guy is crazy about you he can’t wait to introduce you to his friends to “show you off”. I have been stung by the “hot” guy with no character and believe me, I have become much more careful with ME! I deserve better and I’m expecting better. Thanks for your advice Cherry. Even though we all may not be doing it right all the time it’s people like you that make us stop and THINK!


Anita October 17, 2014 at 11:45 am

Chances are if these questions are asked before the first time that the answer will be a false read. Perhaps ask these before sex becomes a routine. After all, everyone wants to test drive the car! A woman’s best course is always to depend upon her own ability to control her emotions & urges. Trying to control the man’s behavior by getting a verbal commitment “up front” will only lead to disappointment. Instead, control yourselves ladies! Ask yourselves the hard questions: Is he spending time and effort to know the inner me? A man’s heart will be revealed by what he does not by what he says and often the greatest fallacies are the ones we wistfully tell ourselves.


Sandy October 17, 2014 at 1:56 pm

You are right Anita! Some guys will say anything to get that first contact with a woman. They read the blogs too and believe me they know just what to say to get that first score. If sex is a woman’s goal then fine, but if a lasting relationship is the goal then women need to slow down. Our inner voice is telling us “truth” we just choose to not listen to that voice…THAT’S what gets us into trouble! Refusing to listen to our “still small voice” is key…we know the truth inside…LISTEN and THINK!


Theresa October 17, 2014 at 2:01 pm

You give up so much if you have sex before the questions are asked. Why would you do that? Have confidence that if he’s the right guy, he will wait until you’re ready and you won’t be ready until he’s exclusive with you.

Once you have sex, he becomes more focused on sex and less on you. Once you have sex, you become more bonded to him and less conscious of what you’re doing that could drive him away.


Claire Stringer July 27, 2011 at 8:15 pm

Me too, Cherry, loved the red flag, love your top, and LOVE the information you are sharing. It’s so important. So many women are too afraid to, “scare him away,” to ask what his intentions are and if he’s seeing or sleeping with other people. But we deserve to honor ourselves by finding out–BEFORE we’re all high on bonding hormones. πŸ˜‰


Cherry Norris July 28, 2011 at 12:53 am

Thank you, Claire!

Yes, it’s so true … and so important to ask a man what his intentions are before going prematurily monogamous!

Get your man’s plan in advance!

Love, Cherry


Anthia Ashe July 23, 2011 at 7:26 am

Just loved that red flag, that was hilarious. Good tips one can use.


Cherry Norris July 23, 2011 at 3:33 pm

Thanks, Anthia!

Happy you enjoyed it πŸ™‚

Love, Cherry


Nikki July 22, 2011 at 4:39 pm

Excellent advice as usual Cherry! We ladies need to fearlessly ask more questions upfront, and to trust our intuition. There are many men out there who know the ‘right’ words to say, but their actions and words usually don’t match. Intuition is our divine gift!


Cherry Norris July 22, 2011 at 11:21 pm

Absolutely, Nikki!

Thanks for your note!

Love, Cherry


Dee July 22, 2011 at 3:08 pm

Hi Cherry

You gave several questions to ask a guy to see whether he wants a committed relationship: “does he want see you for the long term? Is he having sex with other women? Does he want to see you on a continual basis?” If he answers yes to these questions, then he’s ready for a committed relationship.

How does “having sex with other women” considered a sign that he’s ready for a committed relationship?

Thanks Cherry and great job on the videos! =)


Cherry Norris July 22, 2011 at 3:51 pm

Funny, Dee!

Appreciate your note! No, if he’s having sex with other women, he would not be ready for a committed relationship. You would ask him if he’s ready to give up having sex with other women! πŸ™‚

Thank you for clarifying !!

Love, Cherry


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