Lorenzo and I are in Tampa, Florida for a good friend’s wedding. The wonderful celebration of two hearts and souls joined together by love. Ahhh!
A big celebration. Lots of fun. Everything you dream of after you meet your man!
Yet, the man you’ve been dating for a while …
He alludes to marriage, but he hasn’t made a move?
It’s frustrating because he’s “talking the talk” and not “walking the walk.”
Today’s video shows you what to do to get him off his duff and take action (if he’s going to) … without ultimatums!
If your man talks about your future, yet hasn’t followed through with a plan, it could take YEARS before anything happens!
If you’re wondering what’s reasonable, watch this and leave me a comment below …
Enjoy!
Love,
Cherry
P.S. If a man says he wants you, yet hasn’t moved forward to marry you, you could waste years waiting on him to take action!
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First of all, love the huge gag engagement ring!
Not sure if I got this right, but 18 months and you’ve not even met in person? How can you even be sure you WANT to marry this man? My suggestion would be to continue chatting to this guy as you have (after the discussion that Cherry advised), but start dating new potential partners, ideally a few local ones.
If your current man wants you, he’ll come and get you!
Hi Rin,
Thanks for your note. Happy you love the ring! This couple has met in person and have been dating long-distance for 18 months. And you’re right, if this man doesn’t step up and take action, it’s time to start dating others!
Love, Cherry
Cherry!!!
hahaa…YOU’RE AWESOME!!! this is really your call what you’re doing!!! Yet another amazing, fun and super valuable video from you.
I am not in the above described situation but I totally appreciate this great tip…You know…you’re just such a HUGE help to all of us single ladies.
so ..thank you from the bottom of my heart.
You’re welcome, Eva!
Happy you’re enjoying the videos!
Love, Cherry
Hi Cherry, I am confused. First you ask him “when is a good time to talk about our future?” and i understand that. DURING that talk, you are suggesting that she still pose a question “is it time to talk about marriage?” That sounds manipulative to me. SHE is ready to talk about HER future (marriage/moving). Why pose it as a question to him again? …I usually get the intention of being feminine and receptive, but sometimes, it seems disingenuous to me. Help?
Hi Michelle,
Thanks for your note. Ask him if it’s a good time to talk about a specific topic b/c that way he’ll be focused on the subject. It’s always appropriate for you to ask a man for information when it has to do with your future. In this case, Barb has been investing 18 months in a long-distance relationship. It’s time she knew his plan.
Hope that helps! Thanks for tuning in!
Love, Cherry
I sent you a comment, but have not received a reply. I’ll be out of the country Nov. 18-28. Hope to hear from you upon my return. Cristina
Hi Cherry
Love the video! As we said, always date other man until the “big tick” on the finger. A question I get some times when I discuss with friends: “how can you kiss/cuddle different men?” when duty dating, though you do not sleep with any. Cherry, how do we answer this question?
Love
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“This will go on as long as you continue to let it……If you don’t want to keep going like you’re going…” BINGO! That hit the nail right on the head for me. So helpful. It may hurt, but in the long run it’s so much better to stand up for ourselves and what we want then to hang around waiting. Another empowering video, Cherry!
cherry,
I like your style of speaking and acting. However, a relationship between a man and a woman is not that ‘simple’ and ‘easy’ as what you have been described here on your video. Although, it’s up to you that if you want to make it simple or complicated case. I thought some of your methods will work for most of the case, but not some of the methods. Such as if you met someone and already emotionally bonded, it’s not that easy to say ‘bye’ to him once you realized that you don’t actually fit to each other. So, what do you do then? that’s the most intriguing part of a relationship which it does not appear on your website or in your video presentations. I hope that’s something to think about it. Thanks.
Hey Cherry!
I love your videos! Short and to the point, and easy to follow.
And you are just lovely!
Thanks for bringing these action steps and tips to single women.
Renee.