How To Attract A Quality Man On-line …

by Cherry Norris on February 25, 2015

On-line dating is one of the best ways to meet a man and get to know a little about him before you do.

So let’s say you’re perusing on-line profiles and you see one you like.

He’s quite cute and you find him interesting enough to want to say “hello.”

So how do you get his attention without coming on too strong?

How do you attract him without being “The Man” and pursuing him?

Today’s video shows gives you a fun, fail-proof tip on how to attract a quality man without chasing him.

When you see a man on-line you find interesting, often a wink isn’t enough.

See how you can attract him and set it up so he pursues you!

Enjoy and leave me a comment below on how you attract men you like on line!



{ 24 comments… read them below or add one }

Elaine February 27, 2015 at 5:37 pm

Hi Cherry

I look forward to each and every one of your videos. They are always helpful. However, online dating at 66, nearly 67, has been a daunting experience. First, you have to identify the quality man online. Sometimes I feel 'quality man' and 'online' are terms that shouldn't exist together. I have had so many meet and greets with men I have been attracted to and then they've completely disappeared. I rarely get a second date and I've been online for two years. What am I doing wrong? Am I too old? 



Bren February 27, 2015 at 1:45 pm

I have found online dating awful….I get the most awful, sorry, but really unattractive speci"men" contacting me…ugggh…yuck……anyhow a while back I got chatting to a man at my salon….we chatted…I am a classy lady barber…I gave him my card…for a haircut…..never gave it another thought….well 6 months down the line, he texts me…..Not for a haircut but for a hookup…….I tell you some men are just pigs…..


Pegah June 21, 2013 at 9:31 pm

Hi Cherry, I met a man on the plane. We didn't get any chance to exchange any contact details. I only had his name and found his phone number online when I googled him. I called him and he gave me his e-mail address which I took it as a good sign.  I like him and I want to write him a e-mail to start the conversation. As the first e-mail, I know it will be very important that what to write to attract him. I want to write smoething simple, short and the most importantly to attarct him at the same time. Your advise will be much appreciated as Im stucked badly.Regards, Pegah


sally June 1, 2013 at 3:18 pm

HI, Cherry: I had a man that visited my website for a week everyday. But never said a word. So I sent him about a 5 word note and he responded with a tiny note and his phone number.  I did not feel comfortable calling him so soon so my dog wrote his dog a note and I got the nicest letter back.  We are now dating.  Although he has 3 master degrees he does not e-mail more than a line or two and is shy.  The computer is not something he likes.


Roz May 31, 2013 at 11:24 pm

Thank you, Cherry. That was very helpful.


Caroline May 31, 2013 at 11:06 pm

I also think adding him to your "favorites" list is a good way to let him know you appreciate him without being too forward.  Then seeing if he responds.  


Jonathon Aslay May 31, 2013 at 10:27 pm

As a Dating & Relationship Coach for Women, I can say that Cherry's advice today was RIGHT ON. Yes that's right, it's ok to wink at a man or better yet, drop him a "brief" note picking something of interests from his profile. A simple note is like a 6 second smile and if he responds, then let the fun begin. Good Luck


Cherry Norris May 31, 2013 at 10:54 pm

Thanks for your validation, Johathon!! 🙂
Love you!


Newcomer May 31, 2013 at 3:47 pm

Hi Cherry and other fellow daters!
Thanks for your advice on how to attract a man online.  Unfortunately I find if I write at all they get such an attitude or EGO!  Even if I wrote, Hello, I'm really curious about (fill in the blank) would you mind telling me more? "  
They usually write back very cocky or with an attitude and I can tell they now view me a "lower class" woman? So the best I can do is check out a guys profile and on a site that shows who viewed you. Then they know I've seen them.  
Many men write on their profiles they aren't going to chase or some other phrasing of that sort and come out and say, "If you want me you have to email me." Those are the men I avoid as to me it signals they don't want to be the masculine energy, could be players, or are lazy.  Perhaps I'm wrong about this?  
Also many men throw me their numbers or try to bait me to do the work, "Here's my number, if you call me then I'll take you to dinner."  IT doesn't feel good to me. But perhaps   I'm misunderstanding? 
Any thoughts?


Cherry Norris May 31, 2013 at 6:44 pm

Hi Beth,
Thanks for your note. From now on, write “I admire that you (fill in the blank)” and end it there! Asking him to tell you more is too leading. You’re absolutely correct to pass on men who invite you to chase. They’re advertising for a different woman.
Carry on!


Joyful34 May 23, 2012 at 6:30 am

Good Advice Cherry, thanks and keep up the tips.  Cheers Joy


Lisa Harris January 21, 2012 at 5:49 pm

Hey Cherry,

First of all, I love some of the tips suggested, especially the “wink” as others suggested. The little wink face REALLY is powerful ladies, it sends out a lot of messages 😉

You have a great style, and I’ve even learnt a few things myself. Men really aren’t that complicated ladies, despite what you may think!

Lisa Harris ~ -


Cherry Norris January 14, 2012 at 8:43 pm

Thank you so much for sharing your comments and stories!

So appreciate you tuning in and happy to hear you’re finding the tips and strategies useful and inspiring!

Here’s to your romantic success in meeting & marrying your man!

Love, Cherry


Cherry Norris January 21, 2012 at 5:57 pm

Thank you, Marlene!

Happy you enjoy the reminders!

Love, Cherry


Anthia Ashe January 14, 2012 at 9:23 am

Excellent as usual!


Valerie Goldstein January 14, 2012 at 7:07 am

Hi Cherry,
I received a wink from a man. I sent him a short email. It has been about 2 weeks and he has never responded. While going through my old emails I saw an email he had sent me in November 2010. I remember replying and then never heard from him. He had said he had broken his leg and hoped it would heal quickly. It is strange when someone appears to be interested in you but then lets the ball drop. I guess if it is meant to be it will be but it is rather frustrating.

Thanks Cherry!



Anon January 14, 2012 at 5:55 am

Good advice. Even with sending out emails, it can be a little disheartening if you send out say 10 emails and maybe get 1 response back, but you’re right to not take it personally! thanks!


Terri January 14, 2012 at 12:02 am

Hi Cherry,
I love your idea about commenting on something admirable. I have been online but not dating. I have sent out so many winks, and not one single man has ever responded to a wink. I felt stuck. I’m going to try this. I love all your tips, Cherry. Please keep them coming!


Moira January 13, 2012 at 8:35 pm

Hi, Cherry – What a great tip! I’m doing the online dating thing, and just sitting back waiting to be contacted (as I imagined an ingenue must do) feels so … passive … yet I prefer to be pursued. You’ve given me a great way to indicate interest without chasing the man. Thank you!


Tiffany January 13, 2012 at 6:34 pm

I love how you counted six seconds on your fingers while you smiled. For some reason six seconds seemed like a really long time to me intellectually, but seeing you do it in person didn’t make it seem like a creepy long time at all.


Angela January 13, 2012 at 6:27 pm

Thank you Cherry. On-line dating has been so disheartening. I feel more peaceful and natural as an ingenue. These practical tips are so encouraging


Patty January 13, 2012 at 6:14 pm

This is very good advice! Sometimes it gets the man’s attention to “wink”, but if it doesn’t – I say, who’s next!


Lisa January 13, 2012 at 2:27 pm

I always enjoy your tips, very helpful. Than you.


Tina January 13, 2012 at 1:45 pm

Great advice Cherry! Right now I’m hoping to catch the eye of a man online without looking too assertive and I really liked your idea! Thanks so much for your awesome advice/tips! Keep them coming!


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