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It was a chance encounter.
You hit it off together from the start!
He’s coming on strong, definitely letting you know he wants you …
But how do you know if he’s serious or just using you as a toy?
Today’s video gives you a fun, fail-proof way to know if a man is interested in you for a long-term romance or a short-term fling.
You want a man who’s the “Real Deal,” not someone who’s here for a moment, then before you know it, he’s gone!
Speak to you soon!
Love,
Cherry
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I have to disagree with you on this one, Cherry! You’re not taking into account that some men LIE- sure, you can ask him these questions, but you need to look beyond his simple answer to know for sure.
Instead, I would suggest acting from your own point of view- are YOU interested in him as a serious love interest? If so, you know not to jump into bed with him. You will know he’s a player if he keeps trying to get you there.
Hi Rin,
Thanks for your comments. Yes, it’s true. Some men will lie to have sex with you. This is where you need to pay attention to your intuition. If you feel it’s not right, say “no.” If you feel it’s too soon, say “no.” If you feel uncomfortable in anyway, don’t have sex. Instead give yourself more time to get to know him and wait until you feel it’s right.
If he’s interested in you for the long-term, he will appreciate your virtue and wait to have sex.
Thanks for tuning in!
Love, Cherry
I agree with Rin. Unfortunately men lie – especially if he’s a player and will do anything to get into your pants. Not all women can guess though.
Hi Ella,
Thanks for your note. Yes, men lie. That’s why you have to pay attention to your feelings. If you sense he’s lying or feel uncomfortable in any way, wait to have sex until you’ve built a more trustworthy relationship. Asking for a commitment before having sex will “weed out” some of the players up front.
Thanks for tuning in!
Have a great day.
Love, Cherry
Also agree that even men with good intentions or who are on the marriage track do this stuff. The black and white of player vs. good guy is too simple. Some men don’t know, or they think they know but it’s really just hormones. Also, I have made the mistake of assuming that after I stated my requirements and intentions, that when he came back we were on the same page. In other words, this is not a one-off conversation.
Thanks for your comments, Leigh Ann.
You’re correct. This is not a simple black and white situation. My advice is only a guideline of how you can quailify a man of integrity before sex. Of course there are men who will agree to anything to have sex. Just because he agrees to a commitment, doesn’t mean you are obliged to have sex. Check in with your feelings and intuition. Wait as long as you need to feel comfortable. If he’s seriously interested in you, he’ll accept the fact you’re not ready for sex and will wait.
Thanks for turning in!
Love, Cherry
I have had a guy so into me sking me to coffee, and I went, then asking me to diinner on the same day I said yes but not ringing to see if I when I would like to go, in fact not ringing back at all.
Another man asking me to dinner and I politly declined as I has other plans and he asked again and I was also busy so I said maybe another Time, and I never heard from him again. I dont get it. Am I being to easy in the first instance and too unavailable in the second?
I think the tip off is if a man wants to have a relationship versus sex he will not give pressure, he is willing to wait till you’re ready.
You got it, Anthia!
Love, Cherry
My experience has been that he said he was all about commitment on the first date, continued to show he was interested, but after two years of dating nothing happened, no plan, no ring, no date…just more romantic talk of a promising future together backed up by zero action…well, I’ve moved on and he’s back online looking for that woman of his dreams.
Is it important to ask him if he is free of STD as well?
Good idea, Ang!
Love, Cherry
Cherry,
I really feel that sometimes I wonder if I want to get into a man’s pants – just for the heat side, if you don’t mind my bringing this up. In this case, it never happens because while everyone I have met is only ready and available, and polite about it (before the act of course), I reason myself out of it by considering the outside factors. Tell me if I am on the wrong site for an answer (I like and appreciate your delicate touch when addressing the subject of man-woman relationships), of if my feeling on the matter being reasonably justifiable, is legitimate. And seeing that I have too ridiculously straight-laced virtue guidelines by which I live, I am really in the throes of suffering, refusing to move on from this need and turn to only spiritual satisfaction because I firmly believe the body has its needs and part of the example I would like to give to the two girls I raise (I have been through two divorces), is that the body has its needs as well. Can you please advise. I am not even dating. I shy away from the offers on the internet. But I know this is a hurdle I must get past. Meeting and marrying a man is part of my quest, but at the moment, it is not the very first option. I must admit that I am English speaking, and that I live in France, in the countryside. How’s that for a heap of challenges to encounter and get across ? Grateful for some sound advice.