How To Know If He’s The Right Man For You

by Cherry Norris on March 31, 2016

I'm obsessed with House of Cards, the Netflix show about a corrupt president (Keving Spacey) and his equally ambitious wife (Robin Wright.)

The intrigue.  The backstabbing.  The shock of how far people will go to get what they want politically, vying for power and position. (Kinda like the 2016 presidential debates! Eeek!)

It's kinda scary b/c it reminds you that men like this really do exist.  Behind smooth, charming surfaces are serpents who act from their own best interest and don't think twice about who they hurt as long as they get what they want.

As women, we have to be cautious.  We have to be skilled.  We have to know when a man's right for us and when he's not.

Fortunately, even though we've been hurt, we're resilient.  Even though we've been disappointed, we're willing to take more risks.

Especially when it comes to love.

You KNOW from experience what it's like to be with the Wrong man.

But how do you know if he's Mr. Right?

Today's video gives you a fun, fail-proof tip on how to tell if he's the right man for you.

If you want a quality man who loves your feminine side, you must see this!

And feel free to sing along 🙂

Thank you so much for watching!

Please feel free to share it with your friends and leave a comment below!

Love,

Cherry

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noa April 2, 2016 at 7:34 pm

Hi Cherry

51%… i found a man who has most of the important qualities that i need but:

– is from an other [lower and different] social background

– has a daughter aged 24 with psychiatric conditions [drugs and low functioning]

– i do not like his accent and that s recall my ex&family [badely married for 19 years]

– as part of the culture diference – he may be not be able to be friends with couples in which i dated the man long ago [with no physical contacts]…..and i would like to keep my friends…

 

what do you think?

Noa

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Camille April 2, 2016 at 3:23 am

Hi Cherry,

This was a good video. I think the big question is always, "Is there somebody better out there?" Thanks for explaining what to do when this happens in your personal lire.

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meimei April 1, 2016 at 11:24 pm

Hi, cherry, thanks for your video. I've met a man and we've been in a relationship for two months but it is a quite on and off relationship. It is hard since we live apart and rarely see each other. Could you please share any tips on how to survive a long distance relationship? Because i feel i've met my 51% man and things won't be this hard if only we could spend more time together. Sometimes i dont know what i am doing but deep inside i feel like i dont wanna lose him, cherry..

Thanks,

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Suzanne April 1, 2016 at 5:38 pm

Cherry:

What do you think abut a man who meets all of the above conditions,

but I have one concern–He is still unsure of what he will do with his life, in making a living? He had been in the military for four years. He is now 26. He says he will do all & everything to be successful and wants me to marry him. I do love him.     Thanks, Cherry

 

 

 

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Dee April 1, 2016 at 3:49 pm

I cannot get the video to play, just a black screen.

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Toni April 1, 2016 at 2:12 pm

Hi Cherry

Love your videos! Just want to comment on the 51%–

I have a male friend who would like to be in a relationship with me and who would do anything for me. Sounds great, right? On paper, he's perfect. We have many of the same interests. He has many great qualities; it would seem clear that he's way above 51%. But… he has a personality quirk that is a deal-breaker for me. So, just saying that one single thing could outweigh many great things. Each quality or characteristic should be weighted differently when calculating the 51%!

Toni

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Mary jo Peterson September 28, 2014 at 2:41 pm

Hi Cherry. I was engaged to the man I thought I was going to spend the rest of my life with a year and a half ago. Things went bad and it was over. We were together for 6 years. I have now started dating and the 1st man I really spent any time with has gone off the deep end. We have only been seeing each other for 6 months now. He would move in with me if I let him. He is so nice its not funny. He tells me every day that I am beautiful and does every thing he said he would and more. He tells everyone about me and I have met his whole family already. He is even great in bed. He has said that I will be his wife some day. I just don’t know how to take this much attention and feel like running the other way right now. I was married for 28 years before the last 6 year engagement. I always seem to stay in a relationship and things just don’t work out. I am very scared to put my self out there again. I just don’t know if he is the one for me. But I don’t want to crush him and see other people. I haven’t told him I even love him or that we are a couple. He tells everyone that I am his girlfriend. I have never dated or been married to someone that always puts me 1st. Can you give me a little help or am I just mixed up right now.

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Cherry Norris September 29, 2014 at 5:11 pm

Mary Jo,
Just say YES and appreciate the fact that you’re worthy of being a man’s top priority!
You go girl!!
Love,
Cherry

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Margaret August 2, 2014 at 4:32 pm

Hi Cherry
Thank you for a great video. 3 really good tips for sure.
Just one question though – what does ' 51% ' really mean and how do you actually determine it ?
I'm understanding that it means he's not perfect but good enough in that you're more often happy than not happy with the man.
 

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Cherry Norris August 2, 2014 at 4:35 pm

You got it, Margaret!!
Love, Cherry

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Lisa August 1, 2014 at 2:47 pm

Hi Cherry!  Thank you for all of your tips and yes, it is scary when a man treats me so well.  My problem was that I did not wait long enough.  Although it was wonderful having him treat me so well, after we got MARRIED, he scolded me for thinking that I thought I was the center of his universe.  He could not sustain his appreciation for me. Anyway, live and learn. Wait a little longer next time.  BTW I really appreciate your weekly tips to stay in touch, instead of the daily deludge I am getting from other well minded mentors. Blessings to you and your creative tips. Lisa
 

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Cherry Norris August 1, 2014 at 8:17 pm

Thanks for sharing Lisa!
Love,
Cherry

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Judy November 16, 2012 at 1:13 pm

Hi Cherry
I have been enjoying your videos. But don' know what you mean when you say "Is he 51 percent?" Can you pease explain?
Thanks
Judy

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Cherry Norris August 1, 2014 at 8:16 pm

Hi Judy,
Thanks for watching and great question. Basically, since there is no perfect man, you have to find one that has more qualities than negative. Some days you’ll feel like he’s an amazing 100%, other days you may look and him and wonder what you’re doing with him! So in the big picture if he’s 51% (meaning more positive than negative) you got a good deal!
Love,
Cherry

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Sunny November 10, 2012 at 4:55 am

Hi Cherry,
I have found a lot of men knowing the right things to say, what you want to hear. But while they have there own agenda, and get you hooked, then start changing the rules. You dont want to rock the boat, or they make you think your insecure when you question them. You know in your heart they are not right for you, but can't break it off, because the are 49 %. Am I doing something wrong? Or just ended as soon as the red flag goes off?

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Mary November 6, 2012 at 10:27 pm

Dear Cherry,
Thank you very much for your awesome video.
I've met amazing man recently I would like to share how I feel with him- I feel like I know him from ages, I feel like I'm at home with him, I love to spend all my free time with him… I miss him when we are not together. I think I’m falling in love :))). I'm not so sure that it's time for me to share this feeling with him because we’re meeting just from 5-6 weeks 🙂 but yes I do feel this beautiful feeling.
For first time I don't think all those questions like – is he the Mr Right ( because I feel is he), does he like me enough ( because he said he is crazy about me). He treats me like nobody else before and shows me a lot of care.
With great wishes to you and all your fans 🙂
Mary
 

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Rinnie November 3, 2012 at 10:16 pm

Hi Cherry,
I don't always watch and read the relationship advice I receive in my inbox, but your bitesize videos are something I can make time for..! I love that you give genuine advice rather than just shoving your products down our throats- you show true feminine grace!
I absolutely love to be treated like a real woman, or even better a lady! I feel so cherished when my man can't help but say 'You're so cute!', even if it's over some silly or embarrassing mistake I've made. 🙂 Of course, being treated like a lady by the other males in my life is just an added bonus! Though I'm not really insulted by swearing, it's highly flattering that men feel the need to apologise or even leave it out completely in my company.

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Jana November 2, 2012 at 4:09 pm

Hello Cherry:
Thank you again for the beautiful advice! It doesn't matter how busy my day is –  whenever I receive an email from you I usually drop whatever I am doing to learn another tip from you. I am learning so much!
Thank you, thank you, thank you!
Jana

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Cherry Norris November 2, 2012 at 4:28 pm

Love it, Jana! 🙂

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Kathryn Arnold November 2, 2012 at 3:48 pm

Hi Cherry,
Thanks for all your great tips and videos.  What do you do when you are having a lot of fun with a man, he says all the right things, takes action and treats you like a woman….However, in the big picture, I don't see our lives meshing.  Vision of the future is different, different goals, and different desires of how we want to live our lives. Neither one is right or better, just different.   Do I keep on seeing him because things are good between us, or do I stop seeing him so we don't become more emotionally involved and it's harder to break it off?  Not to mention keeping myself open for "the right one."  Thanks Kathryn

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Cherry Norris November 2, 2012 at 4:47 pm

Great question, Kathryn for a future video! Thanks!

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Sandy November 2, 2012 at 3:31 pm

Hi Cherry,
I have a met a man who knows how to say the right things, is very romantic sends poems and gifts but this is a long distance relationship.(only an hour and half drive away) He texts every day more than once, but actual visits are few. There is also intimacy and emotions. I am confused and don't understand why he is consistantly keeping in touch every day but doesn't seem to plan anything more after each visit. Please advise.  Thank you.

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Sue November 2, 2012 at 5:32 pm

Hi Cherry:
 
I'd love to see or order the video of "Duty Dating".
How do I do it?
Thanks!
 
Sue

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Cherry Norris November 2, 2012 at 11:32 pm

Hi Sue,
You can order DUTY DATING here: http://cherrynorris.com/duty-dating/
You’ll have the downloadable link and can see it immediately!
Enjoy!
Love, Cherry

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redy November 2, 2012 at 6:40 pm

he doesnt want  to see you, he just want to email u is that simple with men, let him go, move on, those poems he probably also send the same ones to other ladies watch out

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Newcomer November 2, 2012 at 10:06 pm

Hi Sandy,
I would tread very carefully.  He doesn't quite sound sincere.  There are certain people who like the idea of romance and the idea of you being there but can't deal with real life or a real relationship.  Because you said, "He says all the right things."  is a red flag.  He may have had lots of practice in the romancing department and may even be a little manipulative.  
Texting is also a flag.  It keeps some one at a distance while acting  like there is a relationship of sorts. This person sounds like they are avoiding intimacy while having a pretend relationship. If you'd like for him to call you say, "I love it when I get to hear your voice" or "I love phone calls over texts."  See if he responds. you can also chose not to respond to his texts or text, I'll be home later if you'd like to call.
Also when you say, "There is also intimacy and emotions." Does this mean sex?  Pull the plug and slow the relationship down.  He may be a romance or love addict who gets a high from love talk. romance talk, but it's really superficial.  
Since there is little real contact I wouldn't get invested, see other people, set boundaries with him and let him know what you need and see if he responds or steps up his interest?
 
Best Wishes,
He does sound confusing.
Cheryl
 
If you'd like to get clear on his intentions sa

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Rinnie November 3, 2012 at 10:21 pm

Great advice, Cheryl!

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Rena August 1, 2014 at 4:25 pm

Sandy,
It just could be this guy likes you, enjoys what you "offer" him,  doesn't want to cut you loose because you are a "safe-haven" and "comfort" –but doesn't "love" you enough to want to commit to you.   Only my thoughts here, but I think he is still looking for "the one" and you will continue on the sidelines till he finds the woman that he feels suits him better.  Cut the guy loose and let him go.  This may "wake him up" and realize what he has in you.  Right now,  all you are getting from him are "thank you gifts".

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brigitte November 2, 2012 at 2:43 pm

Hi Cherry, well I had those exact feelings for a man I dated in a long distance relationship for almost three years…I broke it off some months ago because….he was not going to get a job and was happy to have me work two and maybe three!  This was the piece that caused me to end our relationship.  However, I have a new standard to which I will expect to be treated by any other man.  Those feelings of being treasured and being with a man that loves your femininity is wonderful!

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Cherry Norris November 2, 2012 at 4:48 pm

Excellent, Brigitte! 🙂

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Rosanna Tufts November 2, 2012 at 11:58 am

I like those little squares that you have popping into the screen toward the end of this vid. Effective, without being hammering. How do you do that? Thank you.

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Beth November 2, 2012 at 11:17 am

Thanks, Cherry.  I'm in my 60's now, and I recall a generation of mothers who were very resourceful but not very feminine. I feel lucky to have been exposed to many other cultures where women are unafraid to act like women…with all their sensory power…and that does not exclude businesswomen.  I would say the majority of men I've dated over the years have been very respectful, sometimes fun, always attentive, and most whose company I enjoyed.
The issue is me. After witnessing years of parental fighting on a daily basis and no decsions ever resolved in duet,  I'm clearly afraid of a commitment and always have been.  But now I feel I really want that special man in my life.  Should I just keep that feeling in my heart and go from there?

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Cherry Norris November 2, 2012 at 4:52 pm

Great awareness, Beth.
Keep the feeling … and ACT on it!
Got it? Good!
Love, Cherry

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Bee November 3, 2012 at 8:38 pm

Hi Beth, I'm in my 60's too and I recall a generation of mothers (and grandmothers!) who were very resouceful and also very feminine. 

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