Your date was (amazingly) great …
You felt connected and actually had fun …
He was a perfect gentleman and treated you well …
So do you call and thank him … or wait?
Today’s video answers that all important question … To Call or Not To Call?
When you meet a new man, you don’t want to blow it after the first date … especially when you really like him.
After watching the video, leave me a comment below and let me know what you think.
Happy New Year!
Love, Cherry
P.S. After a great first date, you want to do the right thing so he’ll keep asking you out!
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Cherry, your advice is the BEST. Wishing you and yours a wonderful New Year.
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Diana
Thanks, Diana!
Hi Cherry: Wonderful advice, as always. Thanks for your insightful videos! Happy New Year!
Wendy
Thanks for tuning in, Wendy!
Hi Norris,
I like to be the man in the relationship does that mean I am doom to be alone or that i have to turn lesbian?
Hi Lindsa,
If you want to be the man, just do the opposite of what I advise and find a cute man who’s happy to let you lead.
Love, Cherry
Once again, Cherry, your advice is so timely! I must be a slow learner as I keep asking questions that I know the answers to deep down in my gut, but just need validation from someone I trust…turns out that is YOU! Keep your tips coming!
Just went on a fun first date last night, a blind date. I had a wonderful time even though I found I was VERY nervous. I am not always nervous, only when I’m really attracted to someone. This is also the time when I struggle most with remembering to let HIM talk. My self talk and my gut feelings go into overdrive and today I am struggling with negativity about the date.
I am going to the gym and then a bubble bath. I am entertaining friends tonight. I will NOT contact him and wait patiently for my hero, even if he is not last night’s date. (Argh!)
2012 is gonna be a GREAT year! Best wishes to you Cherry and all kindred spirits on this site. Cheers!
Wonderful Ida!
You’re doing great! It’s fine if you were nervous on your date … Do your best to let go of any negative feelings.
Happy to hear you’re relaxing and taking care of yourself today!
Here’s to a great year and meeting your man by next Christmas
Love, Cherry
Great advice Cherry – it’s sooooo hard to be patient but you learn volumes about who the guy is and where he’s at by letting him do the calling. Thanks for the reminder and have a great new year!
You’re welcome, LeeAnn!
Here’s to a Happy New Year!
Love, Cherry
I always like your advices, Cherry! Thank you very much!
What is the polite way to handle this when the guy gave you his published book on the first lunch date? I am neutraul about him at this point.
I wish you a healthy and happy New Year!
Hi Cherry,
I agree with you. I am definately one of those women that say ” I don’t call men until there is a real relationship in bloom”. Some understand that and some don’t, but that is my practice. Love your updates. Keep them coming!!
I agree 100% Cherry. Even though I’m not even 40, I was raised the old fashion way, where women were not suppose to date alone, kiss in public, God forbid loose their virginity before married LOL I don’t practice any of these nor will have my kids obey those rules either, but I do believe that women should be wined and dined and adored by the guys. So let’s not make it too easy on them
I’m not sure I agree with your comments this time, Cherry…. I think you’ve missed the old-fashioned virture of saying “thanks”. I assume the man asked the girl out, arranged the date and probably paid for it. Seems to me a guy would be offended it you didn’t reach out to simply say “thanks, I had a nice time” and keep it simple. That’s not chasing a guy- that’s being gracious. Your thoughts?
Hi Lisa,
Thanks for your comments. I’m not missing the old-fashioned virtue of saying “thanks.” I’m just advising you thank your man on the date and thank him again when he calls you back. This keeps him coming toward you. To call and thank him risks setting it up to where you’re chasing him … and you may catch him in an awkward time. Be patient, wait and if he wants you, he will call you … then you can thank him all you want!
Love, Cherry
Hi, Cherry – Thank you so much for this timely reminder about waiting for the man to call. Thanks to your videos, I’m really getting it about letting a man do the pursuing. That way you know whether he really cares. It eliminates the second-guessing and anguished (doomed) attempts to read his mind. Many, many thanks – and Happy New Year!