He’s young and handsome …
He’s sexy and smart …
He could have any “20-something-hard-body” he wanted …
So why would he choose to date an older woman?
If you’re attracted to younger men and are concerned about body issues or “being too old,” you must see this video.
When I first met my younger husband, I had concerns about my age. He didn’t. But don’t just take it from me …
Hear it straight from a man’s POV.
Leave a comment below and let me know how you feel!
Love,
Cherry
P.S. If you wonder what a man thinks about dating older women, you must Watch Now.
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You rock, Cherry! I love these video vignettes. You pack a lot of substance into them. And…it’s all true. I’ve been following relationship experts for quite a while. You, my dear, are among them. You know your stuff, and thanks for teaching us. ~ Gloria
Thank you, Gloria!
Really appreciate your comments. So happy you’re enjoying the videos
Love, Cherry
Wonderful Cherry
Spots on!!!
Thanks Shoshi!
Love, Cherry
Whoa, Cherry, I needed to hear that so much! … Because I’d never really found all the wrinkles till I found myself around a younger man. This confirmation that (obviously) I have other attractions!
Thank you for being a friend.
Tina
Yay, Tina!
Love this!
Love, Cherry
Hi Cherry,
I have usually dated younger men than I am, and married a man 7 years my junior. I always wondered why! Now I know!
Thanks!
Anne (Kentucky girl)
Kentucky girl!
Thanks for your comments and for tuning in!
Love, Cherry (Tennessee girl!)
Super duper Cherry!
Thanks, Kate!
Love, Cherry
Thanks Cherry. At age 53, I have been hit on by younger men.. 30′s, 40′s.. but shyed away. Thinking that they just wanted sex and not a relationship. To be honest the men in their 50′s and 60′s are kind of set in their ways, some looking much older as well as acting like old men. So this video has helped in the fact that age should not be a factor when I am looking for a relationship. Once again.. thanks
Suzanne
You got it, Suzanne!
Love, Cherry
I sometimes worry that I am being compared with stunning younger women by men of my own age….
Now, if a man of your age sometimes talks in a fun away about hotly fancying younger women to his male friends (and this gets back to you via chance conversation with someone else) rather than about women his own age , but actually wants to spend time with you… Does he feel he is making some sort of compromise..to get the confidence and the quality of conversation he wants he has to put up with an older body too??? Or if he had the choice would he want to go out with much younger women?
NO way to know I know …!
That’s right, Kate.
You can only be who you are. Most men want it all … however your man will know he wants you!
Love, Cherry
HI Cherry,
I wanted to share a story with you. I had dinner last night with a very happily married couple (14 years). The husband is a strong, masculine, assertive man, and yet, he was so overwhelmed by his wife when they met at a party that he corresponded with her by email for three months before asking her out! He simply did not believe this beautiful woman was attracted to him. She was crazy frustrated, so she sent him a present on Valentine’s Day and he still didn’t get it! Finally, his friends, who could see that she liked him, shamed him into asking her for a date. He is handsome and NOT insecure. Yet if she hadn’t been aggressive, there would be no marriage (and 2 beautiful children) today. What do we do when faced with men like this??
Great story, Karrie!
Thanks for sharing! “Patience, patience, patience.” That is the mantra when dating men b/c you never know. Men who move slower may be taking courtship very seriously!
Love, Cherry
Perfect timing for me to hear this message. I met a man who is a dream! I am very interested in him and he in me. We are making an amazing connection. The issue (my issue) is that he’s 7 years younger than me. Those thoughts about not being that young anymore keep crossing my mind. He doesn’t seem to mind the age difference at all. I am the one making it a big deal. This video helped me push those concerns away! Thank you Cherry!
Wonderful Maria!
So happy to hear this video helped you with these concerns!
Love, Cherry
How fun to hear it directly from a young man! Great idea.
Now then. please arrange for me to be in the line of vision with your guest speaker so that I may practice my 6 second smile on him
Heidi,
Thanks for your note! Brent will love hearing this!
Love, Cherry
Dear Cherry,
I am 56. I’ve been divorced for 30 years.Except for my ex-husband
I had always had serious relationships with men in the range 3-17
years younger than me.It helps that I do fashion modeling for a
living and I do have a great body/I do speed ice skating/.I can say
that it’s not just the physical connection dealing with younger men,
it is more the emotional connection that comes from a younger mind,
not yet disillusioned and cynical with life,who is happy to be with
an older woman, radiating confidence and elegance.
Jasmina
Love it, Jasmina!
And soooo true. The emotional connection with a younger man is fabulous!
Love, Cherry
Dear Cherry:
Please speak a bit about men who have been Burned by love, and are still Very wary.
I know someone like this, Very sweet, (but doesn’t really trust women.)
I appreciate your comments So much.
Thanks,
S.
Sue,
This is a great topic for a future Q & A. Thanks for submitting it!
Love, Cherry
Unlike most men my age, I prefer dating age appropriate women. Of course, the young hard body is fun for a couple of hours, but the 50 somethings have experience, maturity, sensibility, and generally know what they want and how to get it. And they are more fun – to me.
Hey Happy,
Thanks for validating “older women” from another man’s POV!
Love, Cherry
I have been interested in younger men all my life. When I was sixteen, I was dating a thirteen-year-old. But now at 68, although my face looks like it’s 50, I am being pursued by a man who just turned 30. He has told me to get in shape physically since I’m seriously overweight due to depression. I’m teetering. There is a THIRTY-EIGHT YEAR age difference here!! Should I tell him? I think he’s judging by my face that I’m fifty.
Diana,
Thanks for your note! Love this! No, you don’t need to tell him your age until he asks. If he’s not asking, he’s not bothered!
Carry on!!
Love, Cherry
I miss you Cherry…love your little videos. It’s good to see you from time to time…love the truth you speak. Julia
Miss you too, Julia!
We must speak soon
Love, Cherry
Thanks Cherry! This is so helpful and timing. I recently met a man 11 years younger than me and could not understand why he would want someone my age. Your video gives me more confidence and I love that you included the man’s perspective! After years of dating older men, I am certainly setting my sights on younger men!
Karyn,
Thanks for your note. Happy to hear the video gives you more confidence!
Carry on!
Love, Cherry
Thanks,gives me hope and courage to feel good about myself.
From the ex spouse who was 9 years younger to the current partner who is 6 years younger, I can tell you it is fun, fun, fun. If they had issues with your age, they wouldn’t be there. If they don’t have them, you shouldn’t either. Carpe diem.
Mom of 3 adult children….
This guys viewpoint is wonderful but isn’t he a rarity?
No, not in my experience! After a wonderful marriage with a 12-yr. younger husband, I stayed out of relationships for way too long. Now, my two lovers are eight and 14 yrs. younger and Iʻm loving it! As Iʻm 66, they are no youngsters, so any qualms I might have about my aging self also apply to them. Yes, they might notice my sags, but, guess what? Theyʻve got sags, too! I recently went out with a guy my age and it felt like I was with my gramps. I need someone a good deal younger if he is to have any chance of keeping up with me, so, I keep myself slim and healthy and have lots of young friends. Age is not a barrier.
Cherry,
Thanks! I have always been attracted to younger men but didn’t quite know why they were so interested in me! This video–especially the part with your dashing husband, really made so much sense! Cherry you are the best!
Love,
Tina
Hi Cherry,
Thanks for a great video. It helps to hear from a man why they are attracted to older women. I am a ‘young’ 54 year old who finds men my age much ‘older’ than I. I am attracted to younger men, but have been hesitant to date them, wondering why they would want an older woman. Now that I’ve heard from a man what the attraction is for them, I won’t hesitate when the opportunity comes along. Thanks again.
Pam
I keep wondering when to break it off with my boyfriend who is 13 years my junior. He is wonderful, filled with joy, kindness and fun, but I think this has to end and I should do it before my heart is broken. I just don’t want to stay in a relationship that I feel is bound not to work out. Thanks for the video….georgie
Hi Cherry,
In the past I’ve mostly dated older women, 5 to 10yrs, and enjoyed it greatly when I was in my 20′s&30′s, also married an older woman for all the reasons discussed in this video. However, now that I’m in my mid 40′s I would have to say they have been some of the most difficult women to date. Rather than be relaxed and enjoy the dating journey with a smile most here, San Franisco Bay Area, I’ve met seem to feel that time is running out, don’t want to compete with younger women and as a result “want to have you commit rather quickly”. In essence that confidence that was once so sexy seems shaken due to time and now rather than exuding that playful confident attitude it’s been replaced with lack of humor&easygoingness that I found so appealing before. That saying 9lder&Set in her ways” rings true and I know understand why a lot of men go for younger women,,way more easygoing for the most part. My father was from Hollywood and dated many beautiful women,including quite a few playboy bunnies, however he married a wonderful lady 12yrs older who was goodlooking BUT also incredibly playful&fun…that combo is one that is hard to beat and highly desired…wish more of the older ladies understtod that..yes you are going to compete with younger women,yes we are going to look, but if you fun,easygoing,attractive and make me feel like the only man in the world I will choose you everytime over the playboy bunney!
I’ve been with a man ten years younger than I for over 14 years. He calls me “supermodel,” loves my body, doesn’t know my real age (I’m 71). Unfortunately, the attraction is purely physical, and I still hope to meet the man of my dreams who shares my passion for travel, my interest in metaphysics, is spiritual and educated like me. Do you think I still have a chance? I’ve tried online dating sites, written down what I’m looking for in a man, but so far, no luck, and sometimes I feel time’s running out. I have longevity on both sides of the family and will probably live for at least another 20 years, but I want so much to share the rest of my life with a special man. I’m not necessarily interested in marriage, having already been married once (I have a 36 year old son who’s a physician, married, and the father of two little girls). Cristina
Cherry, I am so happy to hear the mans POV. I agree. I am also no longer in my 40s and still have a great style to attract younger men. Now, time to learn how to keep one! Thanks for you site!!
Wow, this was great, and makes me feel so much better. I have felt so unsure about the way younger men are attracted to me, but maybe now I can appreciate it and even go for it without that feeling of an unsure future with such a man. Thankyou Cherry!
I love this!! I am often approached by younger men. One guy was even 23 years younger than me! I never understood their attraction and am so glad to know that it’s genuine. Honestly, I’ve turned a couple of hotties down because it seemed to odd. I’ll surely rethink that!!
Thank you so much and your male “POV” is gorgeous:)
God he’s hot, I want one of those. Im going to not turn the other way when I see a younger man look at me now, dont know about this 6 second smile others are talking about but I certainly will smile (even though I feel an old fool when some dont smile back, I sort of feel like a pick up woman). Im a young 52, cute, smart, funny and drive in me that could move mountains if I beleive in something. I have been seperated for two years now and I’m ready for love again. Im ready TO love again. Cherry your making a difference in my life with the videos, thanks
Thank you so much for all your wonderful comments!
Love hearing your stories and knowing you’re broadening your romantic choices by opening up to dating younger men!
Carry on girls … and thanks for the validations, gentlemen!
Love, Cherry
Cherry, this is wonderful. thank you so much. I am a very young 52 year old
and for the past 2 years been dating two younger men seriously; 1 is 13 years younger than myself (I am in love with; though not sure he feels the same way??) and one is 19 years younger than myself. The latter we have so much fun together both physically and emotionally there is a great attraction. His age is fun and I think our ages compliment one another. I am not attracted to him because he is only 33; I am attracted to him as a person and his youth is a part of that. A man at my age could be attractive to me as well but he has to have what I desire in a man. I find very few men my age that have that. So many of them let themselves go. It is so sad. So I am having the best days of my life at 52 and plan on having them for the rest of my life. 
Thanks Cherry. You have made a difference in my life regarding this area especially and it was very much needed.
Cherry, maybe you can help me with this. Cute younger men at my gym make lots of eye contact with me. But when I look back and smile, and then look at them to catch their eye at random times, they eventually completely withdraw and close up. It’s as if they only like me if I don’t show them I like them. I’ve decided, sadly, to stop trying. What do you think I should do?
I have the same problem Robin has.
I don’t think it’s uncommon at all.
I am currently dating a man 14 yrs younger (I’m 42 he is 28) than I. He doesn’t believe I’m my age, he thought I was 28!! I NEVER thought I would date a younger man. But this man adores me, doesn’t care about my age and we have a wonderful connection and lot in common. Being that I am very experienced in dating adn have been single for a long time, I am very sympathetic to his need to go out with the buddies or his friends. I never try to come between that. He appreciates that. Men my age seem to be broken, bitter and mean or are getting divorced looking to spread themselves like butter (LOL!). The funny thing is, he is more successful than I am and makes more money. I am so COOL with that. I think the key to success with a younger man, is patience and understanding. Making him feel like he is in charge. We older women can mold these young men to be better men.
Amen, Sister!
Wonderful story. Thanks so much for sharing!
Love, Cherry